Rachael Ray and her husband John Cusimano have been together for over a decade, forming a bond deeply rooted in their shared love for food. Their initial meeting is a testament to how food can bring people together, leading to a unique engagement and lasting union. Despite facing rough patches and tabloid controversies, Ray and Cusimano have remained strong partners in both life and career.
Building Careers and Love
After college, Ray did not envision a celebrity life. Starting as a candy manager at Macy’s Marketplace in New York, she later became a chef and buyer at a gourmet store before moving to Albany. While working at a shop in Albany, she held cooking lessons and was scouted by a local TV station, leading to the creation of “30 Minute Meals.” Since then, she has written best-selling cookbooks and hosted various TV shows. During the pandemic, viewers saw more of Cusimano, who stepped in as cameraman, grillmaster, and mixologist for Ray’s show. By profession, Cusimano is a lawyer and musician, having transitioned from practicing entertainment law in New York to focusing on Ray’s career.
A Quirky First Meeting and Proposal
Ray and Cusimano first met at a mutual friend’s birthday party, set up by their friend who had been trying to introduce them for nearly a year. Cusimano humorously recalls their first encounter among a “sea of knees,” given the height of other guests. They connected instantly, staying out until four in the morning, considering it their first date. Despite thinking she would never marry, Ray embraced her love for Cusimano. Their engagement was as unique as their relationship, with Cusimano proposing by throwing a Tiffany box containing a ring at Ray’s head during a stressful time. This unorthodox proposal led to their marriage in a Tuscan castle in 2005, where they celebrated with friends and family.
Unique Marriage Practices
Almost two decades into their marriage, Ray no longer wears her wedding or engagement rings regularly due to practical reasons as a chef. Initially, the platinum rings burned her, leading her to opt for a soft gold ring with a black diamond. Unfortunately, her original rings were stolen, and a replacement Cusimano bought was lost when their house burned down. Ray and Cusimano have a unique way of expressing love; instead of saying “I love you,” they say “I ert you,” stemming from an early message Cusimano sent, describing Ray as “ert” instead of inert like others he had dated.
Overcoming Challenges and Secret to Longevity
Ray and Cusimano’s marriage has faced public scrutiny, with rumors of Cusimano’s infidelity and visits to swingers clubs. Despite these accusations, the couple has remained strong, proving the tabloids wrong. Their long-lasting relationship is attributed to their deep understanding of each other, having married in their late 30s, which meant they were already established in their identities and relationship.
They maintain a balance of spending quality time together while allowing each other space to pursue individual passions, fostering a harmonious and enduring partnership.
