I love my husband, Julian, truly. He’s everything I could ask for—sweet, funny, and thoughtful. He’s the kind of guy who brings me coffee in bed just because, listens patiently when I rant, and always makes me feel like the most important person in the world. But there’s one problem that’s been bothering me for a while now: Julian smells.
It’s not a constant thing. It’s more of a “sometimes” issue, but it’s enough that I’ve started holding my breath when he pulls me in for a hug after a long day. And it’s become obvious to others, too. Friends and family have given me the “Are we going to talk about this?” look more than once.
The problem? Julian refuses to acknowledge it. I’ve tried everything to subtly address the issue—expensive soaps, fancy deodorants left on his nightstand, even dropping hints about how “a signature scent is attractive on a man.” He just laughs it off, claiming, “Babe, I do shower. I’m just a naturally manly man.”
No, Julian. You’re just a naturally musty man.
The Breaking Point
Last week, I hit my breaking point. We went out to dinner, and I noticed the waiter stepping back slightly when taking his order. That was the moment when I could no longer hold it in. When we got home, I finally snapped. “Julian, I love you, but you smell like a gym bag that’s been forgotten in a locker for weeks!”
He blinked at me, unbothered, and replied, “Aw, babe. You think I smell manly? That’s so sweet.”
I was about to scream. How could he not see this? I didn’t know how to fix it, but I was determined to figure something out. Do I stage an intervention? Trick him into thinking his favorite celebrity endorsed a body wash? Maybe lock him in the bathroom with a bar of soap and a prayer?
I love him, I really do. But if he doesn’t address this soon, I might have to start sleeping with a clothespin on my nose.
A Gentle Approach

That night, as I lay in bed, tossing and turning, my frustration turned into concern. Julian’s odor had become a recurring source of stress in our relationship, but was it really just about the smell? Maybe I was missing something deeper. The next morning, I resolved to approach the situation gently—after all, love is about accepting the whole person, not just their perfection.
The following weekend, I invited Julian to go for a walk in the park. It was a beautiful day, and as we strolled, the peaceful setting felt like the perfect backdrop to talk. “Julian,” I began hesitantly, “I’ve been thinking a lot about us and all the little things that make us, us.” I paused, searching his face for understanding. “I think we might need to talk about something that’s been on my mind… something about your… body odor.”
He smiled softly, amused but with a touch of softness in his voice. “Babe, we’ve been over this. I’m naturally, well, me.” While he still didn’t see it as a problem, I sensed a shift in his tone—a small indication that he might be beginning to understand my concern.
The Real Problem
Weeks went by, and I continued to drop hints, like leaving new soaps in the shower and subtly reminding him about our laundry routine, but nothing seemed to make a difference. Then one evening, after Julian returned home from work, I noticed something different. He seemed quieter than usual, and his usual spark was absent. Over dinner, he finally opened up.
“Sweetheart, there’s something I haven’t told you,” he said, looking down at his plate. “A few months ago, I went to see a doctor because I was dealing with some excessive sweating. I was too embarrassed to mention it before, but I guess I’ve been in denial.” He paused, then added, “It turns out I have a mild case of hyperhidrosis. It’s not dangerous, but it means my body is just… extra active sometimes. I was hoping it would go away, but it hasn’t. I should’ve talked to you about it sooner.”
In that moment, my frustration turned into empathy. I had been so focused on the odor itself that I hadn’t considered Julian might be silently struggling with something more serious. I reached across the table, taking his hand. “Julian, I love you. And I’m here for you, no matter what. We can work through this together.”
Working Through It Together
From that point on, everything changed. Julian’s confession marked a turning point for us. The next day, we visited a specialist, who explained that hyperhidrosis was more common than we realized, and there were treatment options available. It wasn’t just about masking the smell—it was about helping Julian feel comfortable in his own skin.
Julian was prescribed a medication and given a treatment plan that included dietary adjustments and a regimen of skin care products designed for sensitive, sweat-prone skin. I made it my mission to support him in every step of the process. We researched natural remedies, tested lotions, and even tried herbal teas to help regulate his body temperature.
As the weeks passed, the changes were subtle but significant. The strong odor began to fade, and Julian’s confidence grew. What had once been a source of tension became a shared challenge that brought us closer. We were no longer focused on the problem itself but on finding solutions together.
An Unexpected Solution
Just when we thought things were improving, life threw a twist our way. One sunny Saturday afternoon, an old friend of Julian’s, Darian, stopped by for a visit. Darian had been a roommate of Julian’s in college, and his arrival stirred up unexpected memories. Over coffee, Darian mentioned that he had also dealt with body odor issues in the past and had found a simple but effective remedy that worked for him.
He shared a home remedy—a mix of natural ingredients and lifestyle tweaks—that complemented Julian’s treatment plan perfectly. We made a few adjustments, and suddenly, the improvements became even more noticeable. Julian’s energy and confidence blossomed, and I watched as the man I adored rediscovered his carefree, playful side. Our home felt lighter, filled with optimism once again.
Lessons Learned
This journey wasn’t just about body odor—it was a lesson in vulnerability, communication, and partnership. Julian’s struggle with hyperhidrosis revealed that even the most challenging and embarrassing issues could become opportunities for growth. We learned that imperfections aren’t flaws but opportunities to deepen our connection and become stronger together.
Julian’s transformation was not just physical but emotional and relational as well. His newfound confidence brought warmth and sincerity into our relationship. Loving someone means embracing all of them—the perfect, the imperfect, and even the messy, stinky parts. Our experience serves as a reminder that when we face challenges with love, understanding, and humor, we can overcome anything.
If you ever find yourself dealing with something seemingly small but significant in your relationship, remember that love is about accepting each other and growing together. Every bump in the road is a chance to learn more about yourself and the people you care about.